Tuesday, March 25, 2014

New.

Having a 4 year old is like having a match maker in the family.

"Mommy, Mommy, I wanna have a play date with ____ TODAY!" 

Oh, you wanna have a play date with a new kid? New kid means new Mom which means I get to see if we click. What if our children are besties and we Moms can't stand each other?

First rule:
1.) Meet a public space.

Of course my daughter always wants to "show all her toys" to her friend, but that is just too much pressure.

Second rule:
2.) I think outside is best if you can do it. Living in Seattle, that can be tough - but if you go some where with lots of play room where the kids can be kids and it's not very crowded, it's just better.

Third rule:
3.) No expectations. Don't expect you'll hit it off with the new Mom. Don't expect the kids to love each other. Don't expect you'll hate the new Mom. It's a first date people. Don't move to fast.

Fourth rule:
4.) Bring many snacks for two. Our girl eats a lot. I find this rule works on any play date. And lots of snacks because you'll never have what any kid wants. Heck bring snacks for your New Mom and you if you want…but don't over do it.

Fifth rule:
5.) 2 hours is the perfect amount of time - especially for a first date. You're not going to hang all day.


I'm sure there are many other rules. PLEASE tell me in the comments box. I'm still new at this Mom dating thing. I will say this, our girl has fixed me up with some pretty awesome Moms. Next on the list, me fixing my husband up with the husband of the New Mom. Now if they hit it off, there will definitely be more than lunch date for all!

Here's to new relationships.

P.S.
To my latest New Mom date - you know who you are - I am looking forward to our next date. Our girls did well and I hope this isn't too much too soon. :) 

Saturday, March 15, 2014

Fish out of water.

I'm part fish. No, I'm not a mermaid (though our 4-year-old daughter would LOVE it if I were…) I just feel at home, at peace in the water. It's my church. At first it was splashing in baths, pools, then the ocean, lakes, moving to swimming for fun and competitively for many of my years from 8-19. I love being IN the water, NEAR water, ONE with the water.

I started surfing at 30 years old after watching, reading, following surfers since I was 14. I finally got the (insert word for female balls here) to try it out. I'd been in love with the sport for too long and decided to take the plunge literally-and do it. Once I was on my first board, I was hooked. I knew it was my place.

After a short time living near the beach and surfing daily, my then boyfriend now husband and I decided to move to the PNW from San Diego to further our careers. San Diego was not the place for growth for either of us - though our surfing was improving daily…

Now 7 years later, surrounded by water I'm starting to get really stir crazy. Yes, sure, I could surf here in Washington or Oregon, but it's a long trip for surf that could change it's conditions during that drive and no matter what will freeze by (insert word for female balls here) off. The few times we've gone in Washington it's been gorgeous, empty, fun yet FREEZING waves. After 2 years of surfing year round in NY, I've officially retired my 6/4/3, booties, and gloves.

So I'm looking for a new water sport to quench my thirst. Next week, I'm checking out Seattle Outriggers - to be one with the water again. I'm not sure how this will feel for me and if it will be enough to help me through this journey, but it's my latest attempt at my ever changing outlook on my life and become the person I want to be. Something like the ocean that changes daily, hard to predict, and a piece of who I am.